When people tell you that guys are different than girls, they're right. However, what they SHOULD tell you...is that men and women are COMPLETELY different creatures. We both have a heart, lungs, kidneys and brains, but our brains are wired SO much differently. I'm gonna give you a few examples and then I'll tell you how I learned these things and how KNOWING them has affected my relationship and how it will affect yours.
Emotion
I'm sure most of you know, but I'll say it anyway: Men are NOT emotional. They run from emotion, rather. Of course, when they love you they'll tell you, and they're not afraid to show emotion with YOU, but I will tell you this - showing emotion all the time wears them out. It's almost like they feel like someone is sucking every bit of energy from their bodies. Women are driven by emotion. We're always feeling something whether it be anger, pain, envy, sadness, joy, love, etc. I am ALWAYS trying to be emotional with Matthew. I'll send him texts all the time that tell him how much I love him and how happy he makes me. Okay, he KNOWS I love him. He doesn't have to hear it all the time. And since he isn't driven by emotion, he doesn't say sweet things all the time, and it used to make me wonder if he was starting to not be happy with me anymore. But I guarantee you that a man will not fall in love with you because of all the sweet things you can say. Anyone can talk about how much they love each other. Anyone can kiss and hug and hold hands. But what WILL make him fall for you is who you really are. How you think, what you want in life. Try having an actual conversation with your man, and I guarantee it will result in him being more lovey with you. Just last night Matt and I were talking like best friends and when we were done and watching TV, he leaned back and kissed me like 20 times on the cheek. Because he felt closer to me. Men feel close to women who can say something other than, "I love you so much" and "You're the best thing that's ever happened to me". Trust me and try it sometime. I promise you, he will feel closer to you, resulting in him showing you more affection and love.
Money
Women like to spend money on things they don't need. Men don't. The end. Fighting over money isn't worth it. He probably knows what's best when it comes to finances - let him do what he needs to do to support you financially.
Affection
This sorta ties in to the emotion thing, but it's more physical. Guys don't need to touch you 24/7 to feel love from you, or to show you that he loves you. When he wants to kiss you, he'll kiss you. And if he never wants to kiss you, he won't be with you. Men are brutally honest sometimes, so just know that when he feels something, he'll do it. Whether it be good or bad. So just chill if he doesn't grab your face and make out with you as soon as he sees you tomorrow. He's happy to see you - just let him show you in his own way.
Details
Men SUCK at giving details. When I ask Matt how his day was I get, "It was good, this happened today and that happened..." and if he feels like it's important, he'll give details. But if he doesn't, he'll just kinda give as much information as he thinks I need. One time I asked him what he's been doing and he just said, "Nothing really..." and I was like, "...ooookay?" I wanted to know EXACTLY what he'd been doing. Not because I was trying to keep tabs on him, but because I was genuinely interested in what he was doing. He didn't find it important - I did. Again, different creatures. So, when you want more detail, ask for it.
That's all for this post. Thanks for reading!
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Sunday, March 6, 2011
Remember.
Guys, I'm so sorry I haven't posted in a few weeks. I got a job and things have been CRAZY. I work six nights a week and the only night I have off I go to a night class. So I haven't had time. But I'm sitting in bed after work now, and figured I'd whip something up real quick.
I think this week I'm gonna talk about fighting. First of all, let me say this - it's not a relationship if you don't fight. Every, and I repeat, EVERY couple fights. Big or little, every one does it. The thing that matters most is HOW you fight. I'm gonna be honest, Matthew and I have it to a pretty good science, and even we mess up and fight the wrong way sometimes.
It all comes down to one question: Do you want to be RIGHT, or do you want to be in a relationship? Because, if you're only worried about being right, it's not gonna work out for you. Let's say Matt and I are engaged, and we have an engagement party with all of our friends and family, and Matt doesn't sit by me or stand by me the whole time and I get upset about it. When we talk about it, he's gonna think he did nothing wrong because he was socializing with the guests. I'm gonna think he DID do something wrong because it was a party for US, and he should have been next to me the whole time. It's small, but if it's not handled the right way, it could lead to bigger problems. The best thing to do in that situation is say, "Okay, I understand your side...It's okay, I'm sorry I got upset over that." And then it's done. No big.
But let's say it DOES turn into something huge, and he calls you selfish, or you accuse him of not wanting to be seen with you, or whatever... The FIRST thing you need to do is walk away for a few minutes. Calm yourself down, and this is important: REMEMBER WHY YOU FELL IN LOVE. When you remember why you're in love with that person in the first place, forgiving and forgetting will be a lot easier. Because you realize how much it's NOT worth it. Some girls might say, "No, you need to stand your ground, HE needs to suck up to YOU." Well.......9 out of 10 of those girls are probably single, and that's why. Relationships are NEVER supposed to be one sided. And if it is, it's not love. If he doesn't care to stop fighting and move on, he doesn't love you. If you don't care enough to stop fighting and move on, you don't love him. Those are the facts. If you have to set some rules or whatever, fine, but make SURE you remember why you're in love in the first place, that way the defensive part of you will be pushed back, and you can fix things properly.
The next thing is VERY important: When you've gotten over a fight... MOVE ON. Don't mention it again, don't remember it. Don't keep thinking about whether or not he's still mad at you or whatever... If he says he's over it, he's over it. Guys don't like stress or drama, so he wants to get it over with as soon as possible. So, just go back to being your normal happy self, and it will be okay.
So next time you and your guy fight, just step back and think about if it's worth it. Chances are, it's not.
Thanks! :)
I think this week I'm gonna talk about fighting. First of all, let me say this - it's not a relationship if you don't fight. Every, and I repeat, EVERY couple fights. Big or little, every one does it. The thing that matters most is HOW you fight. I'm gonna be honest, Matthew and I have it to a pretty good science, and even we mess up and fight the wrong way sometimes.
It all comes down to one question: Do you want to be RIGHT, or do you want to be in a relationship? Because, if you're only worried about being right, it's not gonna work out for you. Let's say Matt and I are engaged, and we have an engagement party with all of our friends and family, and Matt doesn't sit by me or stand by me the whole time and I get upset about it. When we talk about it, he's gonna think he did nothing wrong because he was socializing with the guests. I'm gonna think he DID do something wrong because it was a party for US, and he should have been next to me the whole time. It's small, but if it's not handled the right way, it could lead to bigger problems. The best thing to do in that situation is say, "Okay, I understand your side...It's okay, I'm sorry I got upset over that." And then it's done. No big.
But let's say it DOES turn into something huge, and he calls you selfish, or you accuse him of not wanting to be seen with you, or whatever... The FIRST thing you need to do is walk away for a few minutes. Calm yourself down, and this is important: REMEMBER WHY YOU FELL IN LOVE. When you remember why you're in love with that person in the first place, forgiving and forgetting will be a lot easier. Because you realize how much it's NOT worth it. Some girls might say, "No, you need to stand your ground, HE needs to suck up to YOU." Well.......9 out of 10 of those girls are probably single, and that's why. Relationships are NEVER supposed to be one sided. And if it is, it's not love. If he doesn't care to stop fighting and move on, he doesn't love you. If you don't care enough to stop fighting and move on, you don't love him. Those are the facts. If you have to set some rules or whatever, fine, but make SURE you remember why you're in love in the first place, that way the defensive part of you will be pushed back, and you can fix things properly.
The next thing is VERY important: When you've gotten over a fight... MOVE ON. Don't mention it again, don't remember it. Don't keep thinking about whether or not he's still mad at you or whatever... If he says he's over it, he's over it. Guys don't like stress or drama, so he wants to get it over with as soon as possible. So, just go back to being your normal happy self, and it will be okay.
So next time you and your guy fight, just step back and think about if it's worth it. Chances are, it's not.
Thanks! :)
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
The Man of Integrity
Welcome back! This week is exciting. This is why:
"It's not about being perfect. It's about not making excuses and being real about yourself. And for once in your life doing what you should do instead of what your dick tells you to do." - Matthew Wood
This is a topic that I personally love talking about. Because men have forgotten how to be real men. When you're 15 years old and having a boyfriend who wears pants halfway down his butt and has his hat on backwards is cool, fine, but when you hit 18, 19, 20, 21 years old it's time to drop the "cool" kids and find a real man. I'll start with you, guys. Let me say this, though. If you're easily offended, or can't read cuss words, I would stop here and go find a Dr. Seuss book. And should you choose to continue,thank you and enjoy.
1) Provide for those that depend on you. Whether it's your dog, parent, sibling, wife, your child, or your freaking goldfish - TAKE CARE OF THE PEOPLE WHO NEED YOU. And that doesn't just mean with money. Take care of their emotional needs to. And have a good attitude about it. Let them know that you enjoy taking care of them, and enjoy spending time with them. If you never find yourself wanting to provide the best life for the people who love you, something is wrong.
2) Protect your girl. Matt's great with this. If someone ever decides they think it'd be funny to grab my butt, and Matt sees it, it's a no questions asked absolute ass-kicking. Protect them from physical and emotional stress. I know sometimes there's nothing you can really do, but I guarantee you, if your girlfriend is stressed and just wants to cry, being the shoulder that she cries on helps her more than you think. When she knows you're there, and she knows that you care about what's going on in her life, she'll feel protected, even if you do nothing. Telling her to suck it up and move on isn't really the best way to go about it. No matter how dumb you think it is, it may not be stupid to her, so let her do her thing, and you just be there for her.
3) If you say you're going to do something, do it. If you tell your girlfriend you'll call her in 30 minutes, you better call her in 30 minutes come hell or high water. Girls hang on to every word you say. As a man, know that. No one is perfect. You may lose track of time, or get caught up at work, or doing homework, and that's fine. Women aren't completely unforgiving. But when you finally do call her, make sure she knows you had every intention of calling her when you said you were going to, and make sure it doesn't happen again. Like I said, we hang on to every word you say, and when you tell us you'll do something, we kinda expect you to follow through.
4) Say what you mean and mean what you say. Before arguing a point with someone, you need to know why you believe what you believe, and stand by that, no matter what. If you believe that abortion is wrong, and end up knocking up your girlfriend, dear God, you better not tell her to kill that baby. If you think abuse is absolutely intolerable, don't ever lay a harmful hand on your girl. If you think cheaters are scum bags, you better never even LOOK at another woman with lustful thoughts. If you have desires for other women, you never loved your girl in the first place. Don't say a damn thing you don't believe or wouldn't be willing to live by. People respect men of priciple, even if they don't agree with them.
5) Going along with number 4, be a man of principle in public, but here's the kicker: ALSO WHEN NO ONE IS WATCHING. Ouch. Nothing else to say there, I'm pretty sure all of you got that one loud and clear. Think about it.
6) Just be honest. It hurts sometimes, but people will respect you more if they know they can trust you to tell them what's up. When Matt doesn't like something I do, he tells me. If I wear something that doesn't look great on me, he'll tell me. But watch how you say it, especially when it comes to clothes. Saying, "Dang baby, are you TRYING to dress like my 80 year old grandma?" is NOT the way to do it. Try, "Aww, honey, why don't you wear that black and white polka dot shirt? You know I love the way that one looks on you." They're both the truth, but one of them is less...asshole-ish. If you don't like that your girlfriend picks her teeth with her straws, tell her. But say something like, "haha, babe, what are you doing?! Wait til we get home for that." That's better than, "Oh my gosh would you quit that? It's annoying as hell." Just think about it. You
all know that women's feelings are more fragile than men's, so be honest, but be gentle.
6.5) Also, be honest about yourself. When you make a mistake, fess up to it. Don't make excuses. Be real. Women realize that everyone is going to make mistakes - trust me, we make LOTS of them. But what we love is when a man is man enough to say, "Dang, I'm sorry baby, I screwed up...Forgive me?" There is NO shame in asking for forgiveness and I promise your penis won't shrink by saying sorry. And when you do apologize, look us in the eye. We'll know you mean it.
7) Respect yourself. Simple. Walk and dress as if you're worth a million bucks, and I promise you women will notice. Wife beaters and pants down to your mid thigh isn't respectable.
8) Respect others. Also simple. A real man treats everyone - especially women - with respect. Making fun of, manipulating or belittling others is a sign of weakness. Matt almost decked some thug in the gym one time for calling another girl a bitch. That's my man of integrity right there. Not only does he respect me, but he respects other women.
9) And finally, NEVER tell a girl you are in love with her unless you mean it. And I'm not talking about puppy love, or text love, or that love that you feel one night when she's got her head in your lap and your head is spinning. I'm talking about real love. The kind of love that Matt has for me. The kind of love that turns a selfish, cold-hearted, disrespectful, dishonest man into a loyal, honest, faithful, strong, loving, gentle man. A man of integrity.
"It's not about being perfect. It's about not making excuses and being real about yourself. And for once in your life doing what you should do instead of what your dick tells you to do."
Your turn girls. There is so much pressure to be in a relationship now a days that it's hard to sit back and just think about things for a while. People always say things like you'll never be happy until you're in love, or a life without love is no life at all. And yeah, that may be true, but I also believe that people can be single their whole lives and be happy. My point is, since we feel so pressured to settle down and get into a serious relationship, we tend to forget what we had written on our "My Prince Charming" lists, and start marking things off because we feel like no guy meets all of those qualities. Wrong. You're just in too big of a rush. Don't get me wrong, before I met Matt, I was seriously beginning to wonder if I'd ever get married. I did the same thing. I started marking things off my list, and justifying it by saying, "Well, I was a little girl and believed in fairytales. Now that I'm older I realize that no one will ever be this good." Then Matt came along and blew
my list out the water. He ADDED things to it. My point is, girls, that you need to STOP SETTLING. You all deserve a man of integrity. You all deserve your own prince charming. Don't settle for a man who has all but one thing on your list. Wait for the man who ADDS items to your list. And look, just because you're the princess who should be pursued and wooed and all that mushy stuff doesn't mean you can continue to be a
pain in the ass. No guy is gonna WANT to be that special man for you if you're lazy, or messy, or complain too much. Think about yourself a little bit, and maybe this will help.
1) If you meet a guy who has the right color hair, the right color eyes, the right family, the right car, the right clothes, the right morals, but doesn't provide for you, get rid of him. And I don't mean after 3 days if he hasn't bought you something dump him. A good way to recognize this from the get go is if he takes you out, but doesn't pay for you. If you go to a movie, and he only buys himself a ticket. That's a big red flag. Now, if you're going out as friends, then he won't feel like he has to pay. But if he asks you out ON A DATE, and doesn't pay...that's a no-no.
2) Every girl needs a knight in shining armor, not some idiot wrapped in tin foil. If you don't feel safe when you're with your guy, you shouldn't be with him. You should know how to take careof yourself, too, in case he's not around and someone tries to hurt you, but even the toughest women need someone to keep them safe sometimes.
3) When your guy tells you something, take it at face value. Believe him until he gives you reason not to. Matt used to get so frustrated at me because he would say something to me and I'd always try looking for some hidden meaning. When we first started texting a lot, we were getting to know each other and I started telling him some of my biggest secrets. He told me to slow down, that he didn't want us to lose ourselves in the
excitement of a new friendship or whatever. And when I read that, I remember thinking, "Great, I scared him away and his way of saying that is by telling me to slow down." But that's not what he meant at all. He literally meant slow down. See, because of the fact that we as women always have some underlying meaning behind what we say, we think that men do the same thing as well. But they don't. So, when a guy tells you he has
feelings for you, believe him. No guy wants to be with a girl they don't have feelings for, unless they're just after sex. And that's very easy to recognize.
4) If your guy says he's gonna do something, expect him to do it. If you want a man of his word, treat him as if he is one, and he'll become one. If he says he's going to call you in 30 minutes, expect a phone call. If he doesn't call you when he said he would, keep your cool and let him contact you first. When he does, don't freak out, just let him know you waited for his call and was disappointed when it didn't come when he said
it would. If it happens again, and again and again, it may be because he doesn't care about you as much as you think. Look for more red flags.
5) Accept honesty from your man. But listen to the way he says it. If it comes out in a hurtful way, tell him it kind of hurt your feelings that he said it that way. A good man will understand, apologize, and try not to let it happen again. No one wants a man who hurts them with his words. Be honest with him, too. Stop pulling the girly underlying meaning card. Just say what you mean.
6) In the same way that I told the men to be honest about themselves, you should too. It's not fair for us to be able to blame our actions on other people or things if men can't. Think about what you say or how you're gonna react to something before you do it.
7) RESPECT YOURSELF. This is one of the hardest things for women to learn. You have GOT to realize that if YOU don't respect yourself, neither will a guy. You know those guys I was talking about? The ones with backwards hats and pants to their ankles? That's the type of guy a girl who doesn't respect herself would go for. If you don't respect yourself, you shouldn't expect a man to treat you with respect. When some thug
whistles at you when you walk by, ignore him. Keep your chin up. By giving him attention you're letting him think it's okay to do that. If your guy treats you like you're his property, you let him know you belong to no one. He should feel LUCKY to be with you. And if he doesn't, he doesn't deserve you. And girls, I'm gonna go ahead and say this, if your man cheats on you once and promises it will never happen again, and you really feel like you're in love with them, it's your choice whether or not you want to go back to him. But if it happens again and again and again, and he has the SAME excuse every time, and you KEEP going back to him, you're letting yourself be disrespected over and over, and any guy who can be with a girl knowing that he can get away with anything will do it. In my opinion, if you're gonna sleep around even when you have a girlfriend, you shouldn't be with her in the first place because she's obviously not satisfying enough. But some guys do it, and you have GOT to make sure any guy who attempts to be with you KNOWS that you do not accept that kind of behavior. And don't use the excuse that you can't get any better, because you CAN. A guy who tells you he loves you and then tries to get with another girl doesn't love you. Bottom line.
Like I said before, no one is perfect. We are nowhere near it, and neither are guys. But, if you're in a relationship with someone who is really great, but you have a gut feeling that something isn't right sometimes, ACKNOWLEDGE THAT FEELING. A man who is in love with you will make SURE that you know that you have absolutely nothing to worry about.
Thank you so much for reading. I hope to see you back here next week! Go visit my Facebook page, "What My Man Does, and Why Yours Should Do It". Make sure you "Like" the page, too! You can comment on each blog there if you'd like to.
Sincerely Yours,
The Woman Who Found Her Man of Integrity
"It's not about being perfect. It's about not making excuses and being real about yourself. And for once in your life doing what you should do instead of what your dick tells you to do." - Matthew Wood
This is a topic that I personally love talking about. Because men have forgotten how to be real men. When you're 15 years old and having a boyfriend who wears pants halfway down his butt and has his hat on backwards is cool, fine, but when you hit 18, 19, 20, 21 years old it's time to drop the "cool" kids and find a real man. I'll start with you, guys. Let me say this, though. If you're easily offended, or can't read cuss words, I would stop here and go find a Dr. Seuss book. And should you choose to continue,thank you and enjoy.
1) Provide for those that depend on you. Whether it's your dog, parent, sibling, wife, your child, or your freaking goldfish - TAKE CARE OF THE PEOPLE WHO NEED YOU. And that doesn't just mean with money. Take care of their emotional needs to. And have a good attitude about it. Let them know that you enjoy taking care of them, and enjoy spending time with them. If you never find yourself wanting to provide the best life for the people who love you, something is wrong.
2) Protect your girl. Matt's great with this. If someone ever decides they think it'd be funny to grab my butt, and Matt sees it, it's a no questions asked absolute ass-kicking. Protect them from physical and emotional stress. I know sometimes there's nothing you can really do, but I guarantee you, if your girlfriend is stressed and just wants to cry, being the shoulder that she cries on helps her more than you think. When she knows you're there, and she knows that you care about what's going on in her life, she'll feel protected, even if you do nothing. Telling her to suck it up and move on isn't really the best way to go about it. No matter how dumb you think it is, it may not be stupid to her, so let her do her thing, and you just be there for her.
3) If you say you're going to do something, do it. If you tell your girlfriend you'll call her in 30 minutes, you better call her in 30 minutes come hell or high water. Girls hang on to every word you say. As a man, know that. No one is perfect. You may lose track of time, or get caught up at work, or doing homework, and that's fine. Women aren't completely unforgiving. But when you finally do call her, make sure she knows you had every intention of calling her when you said you were going to, and make sure it doesn't happen again. Like I said, we hang on to every word you say, and when you tell us you'll do something, we kinda expect you to follow through.
4) Say what you mean and mean what you say. Before arguing a point with someone, you need to know why you believe what you believe, and stand by that, no matter what. If you believe that abortion is wrong, and end up knocking up your girlfriend, dear God, you better not tell her to kill that baby. If you think abuse is absolutely intolerable, don't ever lay a harmful hand on your girl. If you think cheaters are scum bags, you better never even LOOK at another woman with lustful thoughts. If you have desires for other women, you never loved your girl in the first place. Don't say a damn thing you don't believe or wouldn't be willing to live by. People respect men of priciple, even if they don't agree with them.
5) Going along with number 4, be a man of principle in public, but here's the kicker: ALSO WHEN NO ONE IS WATCHING. Ouch. Nothing else to say there, I'm pretty sure all of you got that one loud and clear. Think about it.
6) Just be honest. It hurts sometimes, but people will respect you more if they know they can trust you to tell them what's up. When Matt doesn't like something I do, he tells me. If I wear something that doesn't look great on me, he'll tell me. But watch how you say it, especially when it comes to clothes. Saying, "Dang baby, are you TRYING to dress like my 80 year old grandma?" is NOT the way to do it. Try, "Aww, honey, why don't you wear that black and white polka dot shirt? You know I love the way that one looks on you." They're both the truth, but one of them is less...asshole-ish. If you don't like that your girlfriend picks her teeth with her straws, tell her. But say something like, "haha, babe, what are you doing?! Wait til we get home for that." That's better than, "Oh my gosh would you quit that? It's annoying as hell." Just think about it. You
all know that women's feelings are more fragile than men's, so be honest, but be gentle.
6.5) Also, be honest about yourself. When you make a mistake, fess up to it. Don't make excuses. Be real. Women realize that everyone is going to make mistakes - trust me, we make LOTS of them. But what we love is when a man is man enough to say, "Dang, I'm sorry baby, I screwed up...Forgive me?" There is NO shame in asking for forgiveness and I promise your penis won't shrink by saying sorry. And when you do apologize, look us in the eye. We'll know you mean it.
7) Respect yourself. Simple. Walk and dress as if you're worth a million bucks, and I promise you women will notice. Wife beaters and pants down to your mid thigh isn't respectable.
8) Respect others. Also simple. A real man treats everyone - especially women - with respect. Making fun of, manipulating or belittling others is a sign of weakness. Matt almost decked some thug in the gym one time for calling another girl a bitch. That's my man of integrity right there. Not only does he respect me, but he respects other women.
9) And finally, NEVER tell a girl you are in love with her unless you mean it. And I'm not talking about puppy love, or text love, or that love that you feel one night when she's got her head in your lap and your head is spinning. I'm talking about real love. The kind of love that Matt has for me. The kind of love that turns a selfish, cold-hearted, disrespectful, dishonest man into a loyal, honest, faithful, strong, loving, gentle man. A man of integrity.
"It's not about being perfect. It's about not making excuses and being real about yourself. And for once in your life doing what you should do instead of what your dick tells you to do."
Your turn girls. There is so much pressure to be in a relationship now a days that it's hard to sit back and just think about things for a while. People always say things like you'll never be happy until you're in love, or a life without love is no life at all. And yeah, that may be true, but I also believe that people can be single their whole lives and be happy. My point is, since we feel so pressured to settle down and get into a serious relationship, we tend to forget what we had written on our "My Prince Charming" lists, and start marking things off because we feel like no guy meets all of those qualities. Wrong. You're just in too big of a rush. Don't get me wrong, before I met Matt, I was seriously beginning to wonder if I'd ever get married. I did the same thing. I started marking things off my list, and justifying it by saying, "Well, I was a little girl and believed in fairytales. Now that I'm older I realize that no one will ever be this good." Then Matt came along and blew
my list out the water. He ADDED things to it. My point is, girls, that you need to STOP SETTLING. You all deserve a man of integrity. You all deserve your own prince charming. Don't settle for a man who has all but one thing on your list. Wait for the man who ADDS items to your list. And look, just because you're the princess who should be pursued and wooed and all that mushy stuff doesn't mean you can continue to be a
pain in the ass. No guy is gonna WANT to be that special man for you if you're lazy, or messy, or complain too much. Think about yourself a little bit, and maybe this will help.
1) If you meet a guy who has the right color hair, the right color eyes, the right family, the right car, the right clothes, the right morals, but doesn't provide for you, get rid of him. And I don't mean after 3 days if he hasn't bought you something dump him. A good way to recognize this from the get go is if he takes you out, but doesn't pay for you. If you go to a movie, and he only buys himself a ticket. That's a big red flag. Now, if you're going out as friends, then he won't feel like he has to pay. But if he asks you out ON A DATE, and doesn't pay...that's a no-no.
2) Every girl needs a knight in shining armor, not some idiot wrapped in tin foil. If you don't feel safe when you're with your guy, you shouldn't be with him. You should know how to take careof yourself, too, in case he's not around and someone tries to hurt you, but even the toughest women need someone to keep them safe sometimes.
3) When your guy tells you something, take it at face value. Believe him until he gives you reason not to. Matt used to get so frustrated at me because he would say something to me and I'd always try looking for some hidden meaning. When we first started texting a lot, we were getting to know each other and I started telling him some of my biggest secrets. He told me to slow down, that he didn't want us to lose ourselves in the
excitement of a new friendship or whatever. And when I read that, I remember thinking, "Great, I scared him away and his way of saying that is by telling me to slow down." But that's not what he meant at all. He literally meant slow down. See, because of the fact that we as women always have some underlying meaning behind what we say, we think that men do the same thing as well. But they don't. So, when a guy tells you he has
feelings for you, believe him. No guy wants to be with a girl they don't have feelings for, unless they're just after sex. And that's very easy to recognize.
4) If your guy says he's gonna do something, expect him to do it. If you want a man of his word, treat him as if he is one, and he'll become one. If he says he's going to call you in 30 minutes, expect a phone call. If he doesn't call you when he said he would, keep your cool and let him contact you first. When he does, don't freak out, just let him know you waited for his call and was disappointed when it didn't come when he said
it would. If it happens again, and again and again, it may be because he doesn't care about you as much as you think. Look for more red flags.
5) Accept honesty from your man. But listen to the way he says it. If it comes out in a hurtful way, tell him it kind of hurt your feelings that he said it that way. A good man will understand, apologize, and try not to let it happen again. No one wants a man who hurts them with his words. Be honest with him, too. Stop pulling the girly underlying meaning card. Just say what you mean.
6) In the same way that I told the men to be honest about themselves, you should too. It's not fair for us to be able to blame our actions on other people or things if men can't. Think about what you say or how you're gonna react to something before you do it.
7) RESPECT YOURSELF. This is one of the hardest things for women to learn. You have GOT to realize that if YOU don't respect yourself, neither will a guy. You know those guys I was talking about? The ones with backwards hats and pants to their ankles? That's the type of guy a girl who doesn't respect herself would go for. If you don't respect yourself, you shouldn't expect a man to treat you with respect. When some thug
whistles at you when you walk by, ignore him. Keep your chin up. By giving him attention you're letting him think it's okay to do that. If your guy treats you like you're his property, you let him know you belong to no one. He should feel LUCKY to be with you. And if he doesn't, he doesn't deserve you. And girls, I'm gonna go ahead and say this, if your man cheats on you once and promises it will never happen again, and you really feel like you're in love with them, it's your choice whether or not you want to go back to him. But if it happens again and again and again, and he has the SAME excuse every time, and you KEEP going back to him, you're letting yourself be disrespected over and over, and any guy who can be with a girl knowing that he can get away with anything will do it. In my opinion, if you're gonna sleep around even when you have a girlfriend, you shouldn't be with her in the first place because she's obviously not satisfying enough. But some guys do it, and you have GOT to make sure any guy who attempts to be with you KNOWS that you do not accept that kind of behavior. And don't use the excuse that you can't get any better, because you CAN. A guy who tells you he loves you and then tries to get with another girl doesn't love you. Bottom line.
Like I said before, no one is perfect. We are nowhere near it, and neither are guys. But, if you're in a relationship with someone who is really great, but you have a gut feeling that something isn't right sometimes, ACKNOWLEDGE THAT FEELING. A man who is in love with you will make SURE that you know that you have absolutely nothing to worry about.
Thank you so much for reading. I hope to see you back here next week! Go visit my Facebook page, "What My Man Does, and Why Yours Should Do It". Make sure you "Like" the page, too! You can comment on each blog there if you'd like to.
Sincerely Yours,
The Woman Who Found Her Man of Integrity
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Land Your Man.
Alright girls, I'm going to go ahead and say right now that I do not claim to be some dating and relationship guru. I've had my fair share of crappy relationships, and I've made my own mistakes. But, I got lucky enough to fall in love. In REAL love. And I see now everything I've done up until this point and how ridiculous and stupid I was. Men I was with before Matthew, mistakes I made with them, things I did that were successful...it has all made me who I am right now, as a person, and as a committed girlfriend. So, the first few posts are going to be about US as women, and what we can do to make ourselves more desirable to men. Let me clarify...the RIGHT men.
All of these topics are things that I myself used to do before I met Matthew. Before I knew what the "wrong" type of guy was. Because, honestly, you can find something good in any guy. But that doesn't mean that any guy is good for you.
Drop the Drama
I'm gonna go ahead and be honest. Every girl is a drama queen. Whether you openly admit it, think you're too good to admit it, or just flat out don't realize it, you are. And anyone who says, "I hate drama" says that to make people think she's cool or laid back or easy going. Because, the truth is, we all think drama is interesting. It's fun! That's why the Hollywood stars are as famous as they are. That's why tabloids actually exist. Because when our lives don't have some sort of crisis going on, we find a way to read about the drama going on in another person's life. And, we all know nothing is more interesting than Brad and Angelina adopting yet ANOTHER baby. Or Taylor Swift's most recent break up. Don't worry, girls, we'll hear all about it on her next album. Anyway, my point is we're all closet drama queens. But, I will tell you this. As much "fun" as it may be to stir up a bunch of crap in someone's life, or to read about all the crap going on in celebrities' lives, men don't find that attractive. Men literally hate drama. They live easy lives and could care less about anyone but themselves and the people most important to them(if they even get that far). I'm not saying men are incapable of caring about anything or anyone. I'm just saying other people's lives are NOT on their list of things to know all about. If it doesn't affect them, they could care less.
With all of that said, this is one of those things that we have to be conscious about. Some guys can be bigger drama queens than girls. Some of them live for starting fights. But, for the most part, guys think that girls who follow drama aren't satisfied enough with their own lives, and a girl that ATTRACTS drama...you know, those girls who bring their drama everywhere? Well they may as well be wearing a sign that says, "Guys, stay away from me, I'm nothing but trouble". Honestly, when a guy looks at a girl who ALWAYS talks about how this girl said that, and how someone told her that someone told her that Shelly's cousin got pregnant by this boy, the first thing they'll think about is how much trouble you're going to bring into his life. And frankly, they don't want that. So, if you're one of those girls, just stop. Worry about YOUR life, and what YOU do.
Pop the Pity Party Balloons
If you're still reading, first of all, thank you for sticking with me. Apparently I'm doing something right. And secondly, PLEASE, if you don't get ANYTHING out of this whole entire blog, get this: Stop throwing your little pity parties. Just stop. It's not cute. Ouch. Did I hurt someone's feelings? If I did, good. That means you're one of those girls. I know from experience. I used to be one of those girls. I would update my Facebook status with song lyrics about how the one I "love" doesn't love me back, or being single and bitter and lonely. In school, I would sit in class and decorate my binders with nothing but song lyrics and broken hearts. I would walk around feeling sorry for myself, hoping that my Prince Charming would come by on his little horse and pick me up and take me away and everything would be perfect. WRONG. The only men that are attracted to a girl who constantly feels sorry for herself, and makes it KNOWN how miserable she is, are the guys who WANT a girl who is so miserable that she will go out with the first yahoo that tells her she's beautiful. He'll tell you what you want to hear, get you right where he wants you for as long as he wants you there, and then drop you like you are nothing. And that is the WRONG type of guy. Talk is cheap. Make them prove it. One who is worth spending your time on will be willing to put in the effort. Bottom line here - pop the pity party balloons. Making yourself look like the "damsel in emotional distress" won't make Mr. Right come knocking at your door begging you to go out with him.
You Are Beautiful - So Stop Trying
Now that I've probably stepped on a few toes, I'll be nice for a little bit. Girls, you have got to realize that you are beautiful. You may have a small acne problem. So what! Maybe you're uncomfortable in a bikini. Maybe you have 9 fingers. Who cares! I can guarantee you that someone will find the things you hate about yourself more beautiful than the things you love about yourself. Let me give you an example. Even now, I'm slightly uncomfortable telling you all what I hate about myself, but if this blog is going to be successful, I've got to be willing to be completely transparent with you. I hate my feet. I hate all feet, actually... They gross me out. I hate the way they look, I hate the way they smell. And I HATE the word toes. Gives me the creepers. Anyway, I've always been uncomfortable wearing flip flops in the summer time. First of all, I'm not a huge sandal fan anyway, so that was my main reasoning for not wearing them. My point is, that one day Matthew and I went to church together, and when we got home, he sat me down on the bed, took my shoes off and gave me a foot massage. As small as that may seem to some of you, it was huge to me. I didn't ask for one, I never said anything about my feet hurting, he just started doing it. THAT is a real man. THAT is someone who loves all of me. And a few weeks ago I gave him one. Anyone who knows me knows how much I hate feet. But I like his. Not because I feel like I have to, or whatever. I like his feet because I like him. All of him. I LOVE all of him. And when you love someone, they become the most handsome man in the world. And you will be the most beautiful woman in the world to someone. I promise. I never thought I would... But I know now, and am confident in the fact that, even though I see other girls who I think are skinnier than me, or prettier, or taller or have better hair than me, Matthew wants ME. He doesn't want those other girls, because they don't have what I have, and what I have is exactly what he wants. You may find a guy that LOVES your love handles. Let him love them! No guy who is searching for sex will ever tell you they love your love handles, or they love the way you burp or they love that you don't shave your legs all the time. A good man thinks you're gorgeous BECAUSE you don't try to be. Sometimes I wake up in the morning and try to put all this make-up on, curl my hair all pretty, and dress up just to impress Matthew. And, on those days, chances are he'll say something like "you look nice today". And I know he means it, but part of him might be saying, "I wonder why she tried so hard today". But then there are days where I'll get up, slap on a pair of jeans and a t-shirt, put on my Chucks and a little bit of mascara and walk out the door. And on those days, Matthew looks at me right in the eyes and says, "You look so pretty today". And I can tell the difference. I can feel the sincerity in his voice. THAT is what your man should do. So, I gave you all of these examples and told you all of these stories to say this; please don't think that you have to look like the girls in the magazines to impress a guy. If he's a keeper, he'll look deeper than that, and he'll find you sexier because you don't try to impress him. Let me give you a little challenge. Don't try. Wake up tomorrow morning, put on what you WANT to put on, not what you think looks the best. If you want to wear make-up, fine. But, make it look natural. Don't overdue your mascara. Don't wear funky color eye shadow that makes your eyes stand out. Don't use glitter. Just, be you. And think about this quote by Audrey Hepburn as you walk through the halls of your school, or your work place tomorrow: “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”
It's Not All About You
Alright girls, here's the kicker. I know everyone has their own sense of style, their own interests, and their own ways of getting things off their chests. But, a girl who is starved for attention is obvious to guys. When a guy sees a girl with her hair dyed black with purple streaks and huge yellow plastic sunglasses...it screams, "I WANT ATTENTION." Keep it simple. Don't change who you are or what you like to do, but, when you don't TRY to draw attention, you'll get more of it.
Miss Independent
Men are attracted to independence. This is something I personally had to MAKE myself remember. When Matthew and I first started dating, he spent every other day at his friend's house. Not that that was a bad thing, I was okay with letting him have "bro time". What I didn't like was the fact that when he was having bro time, he would only text me once every hour, or if I was lucky, every half hour. So I would think up some crazy scenario about what he was doing or who he was with, and freak myself out. Then I would text him and call him over and over and over. And, I'll tell you right now... Not a good idea. It drove him away more than it made him WANT to talk to me. When a girl is so dependent on her man that she gets crazy psycho mode, trouble starts. At the time, I felt completely justified in what I was doing, and felt like I had every right to call as much as I pleased or whatever. But, ladies, that's a big no no. When your man is out with his friends, he's out with his friends. And if he doesn't text you back right away, chances are he's playing video games(like Matthew). And guys are a one track mind. Literally. When he's in the middle of a video game, or a game of poker, or a football game, he's thinking about the GAME. Not about if you're over at your house making up some irrational scenario and blowing up his phone. And, if your man's a good one, he'll tell you where he's going and who he'll be with. And, you need to TRUST HIM. Until he gives you proof and a reason not to. So, girls, next time your man goes to his friend's house, just relax. He's thinking about you, even if he's not glued to his phone waiting for you to text back. I promise.
Every one is different, and what my man likes, your man might not like. And if you don't have a man and are looking for some tips to GET a good one, thank you for choosing my blog to get that information. I hope it helped. Just remember, that you shouldn't have to change yourself for a man, but there is a big difference between acting single, and acting like you're in a committed relationship. I really hope you all continue to read and take some of this in and apply it to your own lives. It's all definitely made mine better.
Sincerely,
The Girl Who Used To Be "That Girl".
All of these topics are things that I myself used to do before I met Matthew. Before I knew what the "wrong" type of guy was. Because, honestly, you can find something good in any guy. But that doesn't mean that any guy is good for you.
Drop the Drama
I'm gonna go ahead and be honest. Every girl is a drama queen. Whether you openly admit it, think you're too good to admit it, or just flat out don't realize it, you are. And anyone who says, "I hate drama" says that to make people think she's cool or laid back or easy going. Because, the truth is, we all think drama is interesting. It's fun! That's why the Hollywood stars are as famous as they are. That's why tabloids actually exist. Because when our lives don't have some sort of crisis going on, we find a way to read about the drama going on in another person's life. And, we all know nothing is more interesting than Brad and Angelina adopting yet ANOTHER baby. Or Taylor Swift's most recent break up. Don't worry, girls, we'll hear all about it on her next album. Anyway, my point is we're all closet drama queens. But, I will tell you this. As much "fun" as it may be to stir up a bunch of crap in someone's life, or to read about all the crap going on in celebrities' lives, men don't find that attractive. Men literally hate drama. They live easy lives and could care less about anyone but themselves and the people most important to them(if they even get that far). I'm not saying men are incapable of caring about anything or anyone. I'm just saying other people's lives are NOT on their list of things to know all about. If it doesn't affect them, they could care less.
With all of that said, this is one of those things that we have to be conscious about. Some guys can be bigger drama queens than girls. Some of them live for starting fights. But, for the most part, guys think that girls who follow drama aren't satisfied enough with their own lives, and a girl that ATTRACTS drama...you know, those girls who bring their drama everywhere? Well they may as well be wearing a sign that says, "Guys, stay away from me, I'm nothing but trouble". Honestly, when a guy looks at a girl who ALWAYS talks about how this girl said that, and how someone told her that someone told her that Shelly's cousin got pregnant by this boy, the first thing they'll think about is how much trouble you're going to bring into his life. And frankly, they don't want that. So, if you're one of those girls, just stop. Worry about YOUR life, and what YOU do.
Pop the Pity Party Balloons
If you're still reading, first of all, thank you for sticking with me. Apparently I'm doing something right. And secondly, PLEASE, if you don't get ANYTHING out of this whole entire blog, get this: Stop throwing your little pity parties. Just stop. It's not cute. Ouch. Did I hurt someone's feelings? If I did, good. That means you're one of those girls. I know from experience. I used to be one of those girls. I would update my Facebook status with song lyrics about how the one I "love" doesn't love me back, or being single and bitter and lonely. In school, I would sit in class and decorate my binders with nothing but song lyrics and broken hearts. I would walk around feeling sorry for myself, hoping that my Prince Charming would come by on his little horse and pick me up and take me away and everything would be perfect. WRONG. The only men that are attracted to a girl who constantly feels sorry for herself, and makes it KNOWN how miserable she is, are the guys who WANT a girl who is so miserable that she will go out with the first yahoo that tells her she's beautiful. He'll tell you what you want to hear, get you right where he wants you for as long as he wants you there, and then drop you like you are nothing. And that is the WRONG type of guy. Talk is cheap. Make them prove it. One who is worth spending your time on will be willing to put in the effort. Bottom line here - pop the pity party balloons. Making yourself look like the "damsel in emotional distress" won't make Mr. Right come knocking at your door begging you to go out with him.
You Are Beautiful - So Stop Trying
Now that I've probably stepped on a few toes, I'll be nice for a little bit. Girls, you have got to realize that you are beautiful. You may have a small acne problem. So what! Maybe you're uncomfortable in a bikini. Maybe you have 9 fingers. Who cares! I can guarantee you that someone will find the things you hate about yourself more beautiful than the things you love about yourself. Let me give you an example. Even now, I'm slightly uncomfortable telling you all what I hate about myself, but if this blog is going to be successful, I've got to be willing to be completely transparent with you. I hate my feet. I hate all feet, actually... They gross me out. I hate the way they look, I hate the way they smell. And I HATE the word toes. Gives me the creepers. Anyway, I've always been uncomfortable wearing flip flops in the summer time. First of all, I'm not a huge sandal fan anyway, so that was my main reasoning for not wearing them. My point is, that one day Matthew and I went to church together, and when we got home, he sat me down on the bed, took my shoes off and gave me a foot massage. As small as that may seem to some of you, it was huge to me. I didn't ask for one, I never said anything about my feet hurting, he just started doing it. THAT is a real man. THAT is someone who loves all of me. And a few weeks ago I gave him one. Anyone who knows me knows how much I hate feet. But I like his. Not because I feel like I have to, or whatever. I like his feet because I like him. All of him. I LOVE all of him. And when you love someone, they become the most handsome man in the world. And you will be the most beautiful woman in the world to someone. I promise. I never thought I would... But I know now, and am confident in the fact that, even though I see other girls who I think are skinnier than me, or prettier, or taller or have better hair than me, Matthew wants ME. He doesn't want those other girls, because they don't have what I have, and what I have is exactly what he wants. You may find a guy that LOVES your love handles. Let him love them! No guy who is searching for sex will ever tell you they love your love handles, or they love the way you burp or they love that you don't shave your legs all the time. A good man thinks you're gorgeous BECAUSE you don't try to be. Sometimes I wake up in the morning and try to put all this make-up on, curl my hair all pretty, and dress up just to impress Matthew. And, on those days, chances are he'll say something like "you look nice today". And I know he means it, but part of him might be saying, "I wonder why she tried so hard today". But then there are days where I'll get up, slap on a pair of jeans and a t-shirt, put on my Chucks and a little bit of mascara and walk out the door. And on those days, Matthew looks at me right in the eyes and says, "You look so pretty today". And I can tell the difference. I can feel the sincerity in his voice. THAT is what your man should do. So, I gave you all of these examples and told you all of these stories to say this; please don't think that you have to look like the girls in the magazines to impress a guy. If he's a keeper, he'll look deeper than that, and he'll find you sexier because you don't try to impress him. Let me give you a little challenge. Don't try. Wake up tomorrow morning, put on what you WANT to put on, not what you think looks the best. If you want to wear make-up, fine. But, make it look natural. Don't overdue your mascara. Don't wear funky color eye shadow that makes your eyes stand out. Don't use glitter. Just, be you. And think about this quote by Audrey Hepburn as you walk through the halls of your school, or your work place tomorrow: “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”
It's Not All About You
Alright girls, here's the kicker. I know everyone has their own sense of style, their own interests, and their own ways of getting things off their chests. But, a girl who is starved for attention is obvious to guys. When a guy sees a girl with her hair dyed black with purple streaks and huge yellow plastic sunglasses...it screams, "I WANT ATTENTION." Keep it simple. Don't change who you are or what you like to do, but, when you don't TRY to draw attention, you'll get more of it.
Miss Independent
Men are attracted to independence. This is something I personally had to MAKE myself remember. When Matthew and I first started dating, he spent every other day at his friend's house. Not that that was a bad thing, I was okay with letting him have "bro time". What I didn't like was the fact that when he was having bro time, he would only text me once every hour, or if I was lucky, every half hour. So I would think up some crazy scenario about what he was doing or who he was with, and freak myself out. Then I would text him and call him over and over and over. And, I'll tell you right now... Not a good idea. It drove him away more than it made him WANT to talk to me. When a girl is so dependent on her man that she gets crazy psycho mode, trouble starts. At the time, I felt completely justified in what I was doing, and felt like I had every right to call as much as I pleased or whatever. But, ladies, that's a big no no. When your man is out with his friends, he's out with his friends. And if he doesn't text you back right away, chances are he's playing video games(like Matthew). And guys are a one track mind. Literally. When he's in the middle of a video game, or a game of poker, or a football game, he's thinking about the GAME. Not about if you're over at your house making up some irrational scenario and blowing up his phone. And, if your man's a good one, he'll tell you where he's going and who he'll be with. And, you need to TRUST HIM. Until he gives you proof and a reason not to. So, girls, next time your man goes to his friend's house, just relax. He's thinking about you, even if he's not glued to his phone waiting for you to text back. I promise.
Every one is different, and what my man likes, your man might not like. And if you don't have a man and are looking for some tips to GET a good one, thank you for choosing my blog to get that information. I hope it helped. Just remember, that you shouldn't have to change yourself for a man, but there is a big difference between acting single, and acting like you're in a committed relationship. I really hope you all continue to read and take some of this in and apply it to your own lives. It's all definitely made mine better.
Sincerely,
The Girl Who Used To Be "That Girl".
Reasons.
Welcome to the very first blog post! Before I get to the real reason for making this blog, let me first explain how I came to this decision.
My boyfriend Matthew and I were sitting on the couch in the Fine Arts building of our college talking to each other about...well, each other. We talked about my bucket list, which is a list of things a person wants to do before they die, for those who don't know. We talked about when we die, whether we want to be buried or cremated, you know, normal things couples talk about. /sarcasm.
Anyway, as we were talking, I was Facebook stalking myself and Matthew(weird, I know, but it happens often). I went to my Quotes section and began reading. Matthew read them as well, he had never read them before. In that section were tons of mushy love quotes, and things that Matthew had said to me that I loved. There was also a quote by me that read,
"I swear to God you'll never understand what this feels like. And when you do, I hope that you just...let yourself go. I hope that you completely immerse yourself in the feeling, because this kind of thing only happens once in a life time. It's rare, and it's frightening, and unique, and intoxicating, and refreshing. It's the kind of thing that, even though you may look at someone else and say, "Why doesn't my boyfriend do that?", you still remember at the end of the day that your relationship is perfect for YOU. And you realize that no one will EVER fit the mold of your perfect person than the one you are in love with. And no one will EVER fit the mold of HIS perfect person...but you. And then, everyone you were ever with before him make you realize that you never even really liked those people to begin with...You were just figuring out what you DIDN'T want. And now that you have what you DO want, you know that you...can't lose it. It's logically irrational, and it's beautiful. It's scary as hell. But it's a feeling I will never feel for anyone else ever again. And, I am completely...okay with that."
Mushy, huh? So, as Matthew was reading this he told me I should start a blog. I asked him what about and he said it should be about love. It should be a blog that targets young adult women like myself, and explains to them everything that I have learned since being with him. What a girl should do in certain situations, how to land the perfect man, and KEEP him, how men think, how different they are from women, and WHY that makes men and women so perfect for each other. So... Here I am!
I'm going to make one post every week, on whatever it is that I think of that week. I'll be taking notes of things Matthew does, things I think about, things we talk about, past arguments, etc... To help you women stay away from the guys who...aren't right for you! Because, if I'm being honest here, if what you have isn't like what I have... It's not right. And I don't mean you have to have a man with EVERY trait or characteristic or whatever as Matthew. But, love is love. But I'm getting into a whole different topic here. Since this is just an introduction, I'll be posting something later on today for this week. I am going to try to have a new post up every Wednesday evening, but the days may change depending on how many notes I have taken by Wednesday.
For all of you reading, thank you for your interest in me, and the topics I will be touching on.
Sincerely grateful,
The Girl in Love
My boyfriend Matthew and I were sitting on the couch in the Fine Arts building of our college talking to each other about...well, each other. We talked about my bucket list, which is a list of things a person wants to do before they die, for those who don't know. We talked about when we die, whether we want to be buried or cremated, you know, normal things couples talk about. /sarcasm.
Anyway, as we were talking, I was Facebook stalking myself and Matthew(weird, I know, but it happens often). I went to my Quotes section and began reading. Matthew read them as well, he had never read them before. In that section were tons of mushy love quotes, and things that Matthew had said to me that I loved. There was also a quote by me that read,
"I swear to God you'll never understand what this feels like. And when you do, I hope that you just...let yourself go. I hope that you completely immerse yourself in the feeling, because this kind of thing only happens once in a life time. It's rare, and it's frightening, and unique, and intoxicating, and refreshing. It's the kind of thing that, even though you may look at someone else and say, "Why doesn't my boyfriend do that?", you still remember at the end of the day that your relationship is perfect for YOU. And you realize that no one will EVER fit the mold of your perfect person than the one you are in love with. And no one will EVER fit the mold of HIS perfect person...but you. And then, everyone you were ever with before him make you realize that you never even really liked those people to begin with...You were just figuring out what you DIDN'T want. And now that you have what you DO want, you know that you...can't lose it. It's logically irrational, and it's beautiful. It's scary as hell. But it's a feeling I will never feel for anyone else ever again. And, I am completely...okay with that."
Mushy, huh? So, as Matthew was reading this he told me I should start a blog. I asked him what about and he said it should be about love. It should be a blog that targets young adult women like myself, and explains to them everything that I have learned since being with him. What a girl should do in certain situations, how to land the perfect man, and KEEP him, how men think, how different they are from women, and WHY that makes men and women so perfect for each other. So... Here I am!
I'm going to make one post every week, on whatever it is that I think of that week. I'll be taking notes of things Matthew does, things I think about, things we talk about, past arguments, etc... To help you women stay away from the guys who...aren't right for you! Because, if I'm being honest here, if what you have isn't like what I have... It's not right. And I don't mean you have to have a man with EVERY trait or characteristic or whatever as Matthew. But, love is love. But I'm getting into a whole different topic here. Since this is just an introduction, I'll be posting something later on today for this week. I am going to try to have a new post up every Wednesday evening, but the days may change depending on how many notes I have taken by Wednesday.
For all of you reading, thank you for your interest in me, and the topics I will be touching on.
Sincerely grateful,
The Girl in Love
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