Remember.

Guys, I'm so sorry I haven't posted in a few weeks. I got a job and things have been CRAZY. I work six nights a week and the only night I have off I go to a night class. So I haven't had time. But I'm sitting in bed after work now, and figured I'd whip something up real quick.

I think this week I'm gonna talk about fighting.  First of all, let me say this - it's not a relationship if you don't fight. Every, and I repeat, EVERY couple fights. Big or little, every one does it. The thing that matters most is HOW you fight. I'm gonna be honest, Matthew and I have it to a pretty good science, and even we mess up and fight the wrong way sometimes.

It all comes down to one question: Do you want to be RIGHT, or do you want to be in a relationship? Because, if you're only worried about being right, it's not gonna work out for you. Let's say Matt and I are engaged, and we have an engagement party with all of our friends and family, and Matt doesn't sit by me or stand by me the whole time and I get upset about it. When we talk about it, he's gonna think he did nothing wrong because he was socializing with the guests. I'm gonna think he DID do something wrong because it was a party for US, and he should have been next to me the whole time. It's small, but if it's not handled the right way, it could lead to bigger problems. The best thing to do in that situation is say, "Okay, I understand your side...It's okay, I'm sorry I got upset over that." And then it's done. No big.

But let's say it DOES turn into something huge, and he calls you selfish, or you accuse him of not wanting to be seen with you, or whatever... The FIRST thing you need to do is walk away for a few minutes. Calm yourself down, and this is important: REMEMBER WHY YOU FELL IN LOVE. When you remember why you're in love with that person in the first place, forgiving and forgetting will be a lot easier. Because you realize how much it's NOT worth it. Some girls might say, "No, you need to stand your ground, HE needs to suck up to YOU." Well.......9 out of 10 of those girls are probably single, and that's why. Relationships are NEVER supposed to be one sided. And if it is, it's not love. If he doesn't care to stop fighting and move on, he doesn't love you. If you don't care enough to stop fighting and move on, you don't love him. Those are the facts. If you have to set some rules or whatever, fine, but make SURE you remember why you're in love in the first place, that way the defensive part of you will be pushed back, and you can fix things properly.

The next thing is VERY important: When you've gotten over a fight... MOVE ON. Don't mention it again, don't remember it. Don't keep thinking about whether or not he's still mad at you or whatever... If he says he's over it, he's over it. Guys don't like stress or drama, so he wants to get it over with as soon as possible. So, just go back to being your normal happy self, and it will be okay.

So next time you and your guy fight, just step back and think about if it's worth it. Chances are, it's not.

Thanks!  :)